Written Sep 3, 2013 2:00pm by Cindy McMurry
Dearest Family and Friends,
We have so much to tell you and so many thanks to share but before I begin, I’d like to ask you to please pause and pray for our dear friend Margaret, her mother Mary and her family as they too face the difficult journey of cancer. They are precious to God and need to experience his presence, peace, healing and comfort today.
Miracles look different today to me than they have in the past. Leading up to this surgery, the surgery and the week following I’ve discovered that miracles come in many shapes and sizes, in voices, in touch, in breath, in strength of character, in laughter, in prayer, in humor and sometimes even in insistent voices. God uses the strengths and sometimes the weaknesses in the nature he’s created in each in of us to accomplish his will.
This week I’ve spent a lot of time being the recipient of many blessings and watching God transform and work miracles in and through others. I experienced a young child lay hands on me and say a prayer that I’m certain made God happy and the angels sing hallelujahs. My young friends lifted their voices in song to God’s glory and as a way to encourage us. Many friends who have struggled with their own spiritual walk joined together to pray, sing, read and listen to scripture, facing their own frustrations and fears to support and encourage us. Each of these things are miracles. And there are so many more…
To my darling husband John, Thank you! I can barely type through the tears at how grateful I am. You have been willing to be sleepless, to stay by my side, sleeping in chairs, sofas whatever was available to be near me. You have not complained when I could not feed myself, or hold my drink, when my coffee was too hot to sip through a straw, when you had to go searching for whatever I needed and taking care of my most intimate and personal needs. You’ve teased and laughed and coped through complete exhaustion. And when needed, you allowed the doctor/husband/tiger and hero to come out. For over three hours you comforted me tenderly, advocated for me with the staff, put yourself in physically awkward positions trying to calm my body that was out of control in painful spasms and were stormy when you needed to be in order to get me some relief. Many years ago I told you I needed you to be my “Giant,” the person who would stand behind me and support me when I couldn’t stand or fight for myself. I’m not sure “Giant” is even an adequate word… you are my Hero, my Lover, my Best Friend, my Giant Slayer… a Miracle in my life. God has richly blessed me with you. I love you!
My parents drove from WV to stay with us through the duration of my hospital stay. My sister, Betsy flew to Indianapolis to spend time with us on Sunday and Monday. Cathryn drove to Indianapolis to support John and me through my surgery and recovery. Mom, Dad and Cathryn gave John a break (hello Barnes and Noble) and during that time my body went into rebellion again, with spasms that were equally as bad as in the night. My parents and Cathryn did not leave me, they advocated, pleaded with staff to find a way to give me relief, massaged, prayed, played calming music, everything they could think to do to get me relief… meanwhile I was asking God for mercy… mercy Dear God. I can never say enough thanks to my parents and Cathryn for helping me and being there during this time. John desperately needed a break and even though he wishes we would have called him, he needed to take care of himself too. It was difficult, but in the midst of this, there was grace, there was mercy and there was the miracle of family and friends.
I found myself amazed at the sacrifices other were willing to make on our behalf. Some of you texted, some of you visited, some called, some wrote, all of you prayed. The gifts and miracles continued…
Betsy went home and she and Rich turned around and drove to Louisville from Raleigh, NC to help me get ready for Taylor’s wedding (can you say Spanx?) John worked hard to try to apply mascara… good thing we can both laugh… but his effort goes unmatched. Cathryn persuaded a salon to open exclusively for me and an employee agreed to come in on her holiday weekend to apply my makeup and style my hair for Taylor’s wedding. Bill attended all of the wedding events with us and hosted us for the weekend. He made himself available to take me late, bring me home early whatever I needed because we all understood John needed to be available for all of Taylor’s events. Taylor and Jeffrey added folks to the wedding guests just so I could have the needed help available. Jeff’s parents, Rob and Renee welcomed extra guests to their barbeque to accommodate our needs. When John was busy doing wedding events, Bill, Betsy and Rich made sure to cut my food, and provide anything I needed. Bonnie and Meg encouraged us and were a source of joy. My long time friend, Cindy Yerkes started a pinterest board in my honor (Cindy, I’m overwhelmed by your love!) My friends, church family, Harlan “Sisterhood” and neighbors are bringing in food. My Mother is coming to stay with us. Libby’s caregivers and friend Marybelle made sure things have run smoothly for Libby, which was a huge relief!!!
You have each made this very difficult time much easier and I’m overwhelmed by your love. I believe you are a gift of God in our lives.
I’m in awe of God’s goodness, his grace and the miracle of you.
I love you,
This text has continued to remind me of each of you…
“Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works and glorify your Father in heaven.” Matt 5:16
Your lights are shining brightly and God is being glorified. I love you!!